Divorce and unhappiness seem like they go together well, like chocolate and peanut butter. Going through a divorce is definitely an emotionally wrenching experience, even if you were the one who decided to leave. Yet so many divorcees seem unable to shed that unhappiness and sadness, allowing the loss of that one relationship to color [...]

Question:
“I still have feelings of anger and revenge towards my ex, and we separated over a year ago now. I feel stuck and let his decision to end our marriage cloud my perspective. How do I let go of this?”
Answer:
You are definitely not alone in holding a lasting grudge and feeling those angers and resentments [...]

Question:
“I live in a small community. My biggest challenge is I am always seeing my ex and the woman he had an affair with and married on a weekly basis because of the children’s activities. I feel like I can’t “get over” my divorce because I am kept inflamed constantly in the present.”
Answer:
Living in a [...]

Divorce is a painful experience, even if it was your choice to end the relationship. Being able to thrive after divorce is determined in large part by where do you live, but I’m not talking about your physical address. Where does your mindset predominantly live – in the past, present, or future? Are you living [...]

Question
“My biggest challenge is in not understanding where my wife’s decision to separate is coming from. I feel like I’ve been totally blindsided.”
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In many cases of divorce, someone decides to pull the plug on the marriage first. It can be very painful if you didn’t see it coming and are the one who is left [...]

Are you familiar with the phrase “The shortest distance between two points is a straight line?” While this may be true in math or drawing, it is not true in the journey of healing your heart after divorce.
When dealing with our emotions, progress is definitely not linear. It’s more like one step forward, two steps [...]

Here’s a great new divorce resource that’s hit the internet: FirstWivesWorld.com. It’s like a one-stop shopping center of information to help people in any stage of divorce. They found me online (through my divorce podcast, Divorce101Show.com) and I’m honored that they have asked me to become a contributing expert! My first article, called “Time to [...]

Divorce is an enormous life transition. The basic storyline goes something like this. One day you’re in a relationship and the goal is to live happily ever after. Then over time, your relationship hits the rocks. People get unhappy with each other and someone makes the decision to divorce. How do you bridge the gap [...]

I’m often asked by clients or the media for my top tips to help people who are in the process of divorce. Here are the second 5 of my Top 10 Tips. If you missed Part 1, it’s posted here on the blog.

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Divorce attorneys are not all alike. I’m a big proponent of alternatives to going to court, like mediation or collaborative law. I recently was interviewed by Lee Rosen, of Rosen Law Firm in North Carolina, where they promise…