Has your divorce or separation left you in an emotional tailspin? Would you like to become a master of your emotions, once and for all?
Then join me Tuesday, September 16 at 6pm pacific/9pm eastern for my THRIVE Community call as me and my special guest, Colleen Hoffman Smith, answer your questions about how to regain [...]

Question
“My biggest challenge is in not understanding where my wife’s decision to separate is coming from. I feel like I’ve been totally blindsided.”
Answer 
In many cases of divorce, someone decides to pull the plug on the marriage first. It can be very painful if you didn’t see it coming and are the one who is left [...]

Are you familiar with the phrase “The shortest distance between two points is a straight line?” While this may be true in math or drawing, it is not true in the journey of healing your heart after divorce.
When dealing with our emotions, progress is definitely not linear. It’s more like one step forward, two steps [...]

Here’s a great new divorce resource that’s hit the internet: FirstWivesWorld.com. It’s like a one-stop shopping center of information to help people in any stage of divorce. They found me online (through my divorce podcast, Divorce101Show.com) and I’m honored that they have asked me to become a contributing expert! My first article, called “Time to [...]

When you’re going through a stressful time like a divorce, how do you move forward?  These are moments that define who you are and reveal the important inner workings of your own mind.  Sure, it’s easy to feel good about yourself when things are going your way.  How you feel about yourself when the going [...]

The break-up of a love relationship can be emotionally devastating. As I shared, I recently joined the ranks of the heartbroken when an important relationship I was in ended abruptly and unexpectedly. Life in the void is an important opportunity to let go of an old paradigm and prepare yourself for new possibilities to enter [...]

Let’s be honest. I believe separation, divorce, and relationship break-ups always have a gift to offer us, but the initial breakup period sucks. For most of us, when we’re in relationship, it feels like we’re on solid ground. It may feel comfortable and soft to walk on, or it may be rocky and painful, but [...]

Divorce is one of the most emotionally demanding life transitions you’ll ever encounter. One big pitfall is what I call “going for the martyr medal.” You get so preoccupied and consumed with making sure everyone else is taken care of first, that your own needs fall by the wayside. Single parents are often strong contenders [...]

Divorce is one of the most emotionally demanding life transitions you’ll ever encounter. One big pitfall is getting preoccupied and consumed with making sure everyone else is taken care of first. Some divorcees adopt a martyr role as they navigate the new waters of their life. “Yes, my life is tough right now but I’ll [...]

Appreciation is an underutilized, yet hugely valuable, ingredient in successful relationships. Many of us take a major blow to our self-esteem when we divorce. Practicing appreciation of ourselves and others can help heal our wounded hearts. Part 1 covered how appreciation is like a fertilizer that can help relationships grow and strengthen. Expressing verbal and [...]